Mom, where did you find dinosaur egg oatmeal??????
As most of you probably already know, there's been a change in church
policy regarding emails. We can email anyone now! So now you get emails
directly from me - feel free to respond to them directly whenever you want at rchandler@myldsmail.net
Not much to report new this week - still "sowing in tears". It's spring
break this coming week in Utah so everyone was prepping for their vacations. So.
many. people. out of town. We met a few great people this week we're planning on
working with into April - one of them is a nine year old named Gabe Cosgrove.
His older brother got baptized last year and he was going to get baptized with
him but cut his leg on a broken fish tank or something and couldn't get the
stitches wet for that day, so we get to do it now! :)
We had a great mission conference this week on teaching investigators the
"why" and "how" of praying, studying the book of mormon, and going to church. It
was really insightful; it's something I can work on. I think sometimes I get so
"what", so task oriented that I forget about the "how" and "why". Teaching is
the best part of missionary work, so I love working on being a better
teacher.
Hope everyone had a great easter,
Elder Chandler
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thought: behaviors vs attitudes
This is kind of on the same vein as the what why how thing. As I've thought
back on how I act and interact with regards to this idea, I have figured out a
lot as far as what effective interactions should be like. So I'll just throw
some of my musings at you.
Isn't it interesting that people can do the exact same outward behaviors
and yet the meaning and feelings conveyed can be absolutely different? What you
do is totally irrelevant to the actual interaction. Someone could do something
that's pretty dumb socially, but because the intention is good the interaction
still pans out for the better. People can sense the inner intention and kind of
disregard what is said.
The most important thing in interactions is not what you do, but how you do
it. You can practice active listening at the edge of your chair, have eye
contact, but if you don't really care about what they're saying, then they know.
On the flip side, if a small child comes up to me and I say something to him or
her, a bad listening skill, the other person would overlook it. Small mistakes
are forgiven more easily.
So it's worth it not to "fake" it during interactions. Decide to genuinely
care. Be interested in others! And then, even if you're "too bold", you push too
hard, people won't be offended.
Anyways, I like this thought train so maybe I'll keep thinking on it. hm.
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